Understanding Shame Based Identities, Part I
Care for the Cure
June 14, 2021 8:00 AM MDT
Description: This seminar will explore the topic of Shame. Any behavior that is motivated by an inner sense of “not measuring up” is in fact a barrier to healthy relationships. Shame impacts self-image and creates feelings of defectiveness and worthlessness.
Research shows that certain styles common in dysfunctional families can create an environment where secrets thrive and fosters incest and abuse. This is because of the shame base which their environment promotes and reinforces.
Understanding shame is fundamental to understanding abuse. These dynamics can be found in many institutional settings: schools, nursing homes, mental hospitals and church structures.
This seminar will help you identify Trauma Bonds that exist in relationships as pervasive patterns that include trauma repetition, avoidance, trauma pleasure, shame, reactivity, trauma splitting and abstinence.
We will highlight the basic indicators of shame based relational styles, fears, acting out, perfectionism and addictions. Learning how to identify unresolved feelings can free us from anxiety, frustration and a sense of helplessness to restore hope and the ability to dream.
- Understand how attachments can occur in the presence of danger, shame and exploitation and the role of seduction, deception or betrayal being intertwined with danger, risk and fear.
- Define the “Stockholm Syndrome” as a form of traumatic bonding.
- Explain how traumatic shame can lead to exploitation.
- Describe the difference between guilt and shame.
- Outline the communication problems inherent in a dysfunctional family or organizational system.
- Learn to recognize feelings, dreams and childhood longings as important and deserving of attention and respect.